"Write one
true sentence."

"Write the truest sentence that you know." This sage advice from Ernest Hemingway introduces the final chapter in our emotional health series, and we’re ending on a high note: self-expression. This is where the magic happens—the ability to share your thoughts, feelings, and truth authentically.

You’ve done the inner work of self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-regulation. Now, it’s time to let it out. Think of self-expression as the dance floor for your soul. (Pull your best shapes. 💃🕺)

Why self-expression matters

When we bottle up emotions or hold back our truth, it can feel heavy. Self-expression lightens the load. It’s about being honest with yourself and others—not perfectly, but honestly. It’s where connection, release, and authenticity come together.

Reflect on the following to tap into your authentic voice:

How have I been communicating my thoughts and feelings lately?
Are there thoughts or emotions I’m holding on to?
Is there something I need to say to someone to let go of an emotion?

Take some time to write it out. Let it flow. You might find that just saying it to yourself can be enough, but if it feels right to share, go for it.

A little smoosh of inspiration from Hemingway and us

For a quick burst of courage, here’s a 3-step practice for self-expression:

1. Breathe deeply (yep, again—breath is magic).

2. Focus on what you truly want to say.

3. Start with one true sentence. Keep it simple and real.

Still nervous? That’s okay. Self-expression is like a muscle—the more you use it, the stronger it gets.

Say what you mean. Be who you are. Let it out.

You've got this.

Love,

PS. Next week we'll get the jingle bells a jinglin'. It's almost ho ho holiday time! 🎄

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