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Let’s talk about self-regulation. You know, that magical ability to stay calm in the middle of chaos, to respond thoughtfully instead of lashing or dashing out, in the face of big emotions.

If self-awareness is noticing what’s going on and self-acceptance is making peace with who you are, self-regulation is the bridge to what you do next. It’s the art of not letting your emotions run the show, while still letting them have their say.

What does self-regulation look like?

Imagine a heightened emotional situation. Someone’s snapped at you, or plans have gone sideways. The reactive part of your brain wants to take charge, maybe with a sharp word or a sulky retreat (we've all been there ;-).

Self-regulation steps in and says, “Hang on. Let’s take a moment before we burn bridges (or lose our own peace).”

It’s the pause that prevents regret and helps you channel your energy wisely.

Here are some self-regulation check in questions:

Have I been able to stay calm when emotions run high?
When my thoughts spiral, can I calm them to soothe my feelings?
Do I know how to use movement or stillness to process big emotions in my body

Self-regulation doesn’t mean ignoring your feelings or pretending everything’s fine. It’s about creating space to notice them, understand them, and decide how to act in a way that aligns with what truly matters to you.

Try this: The 3-Breath Micro-Practice

When emotions start to take over, use this simple practice to anchor yourself:

Notice you’re breathing.
(Yes, right now. Bring your attention to your breath. No need to change it, just notice it.)
Relax your body.
Drop your shoulders. Unclench your jaw. Feel the ground beneath your feet. Let your body soften even just a little.
Ask silently, "what's important now?"
And then listen for an intuitive response. Is it kindness? Patience? A deep breath before responding? Whatever answer arises, trust it.

This micro-practice is tiny but mighty. It helps you break the cycle of reactivity and come back to the present moment—where your choices live.

Self-regulation takes practice, but every moment is an opportunity to try again. You’re human, after all. And humans? We’re wired to feel it all AND we can also learn to respond with intention.

Breathe, relax, and remember what’s important.

You've got this.

Love,