😴 How to rest without feeling guilty


How hard are you pushing yourself
right now?

I'm willing to bet you're a productivity powerhouse.

People rely on you.
You consistently show up for them.
You solve problems.
You get sh*t done.

If you don't do it, who will?
It's easier to do it all yourself.

At some point, you've decided this is the only way - and it's become a belief.

And that belief may be surrounded by feelings of guilt if you don't keep meeting those high standards you set for yourself.

So you keep pushing, and you keep doing.

Here's a question...

When is there time and space for you?
That part of you that needs to rest, guilt-free.

This week, I'm sharing a short video to remind you about the importance of rest. It's a form of productivity. Sometimes slowing down is the best way to speed up.

Believe it or not, there is enough time for you to have your needs met and still meet the needs of others.

Rest is a gentle step in that direction.

You've got this,

PS. Join our upcoming live webinar on transforming your beliefs; how to identify the limiting ones, how to change them and how to make the new ones stick.

Date: Friday 12 April
Time: 12:30pm - 1:15pm (45 mins)
Location: Zoom
Cost: Free
Next steps: Register here

Meet Melis and Ben from 'this human' as they guide you through real life examples of how working with your beliefs increases clarity and confidence in service of what's next in your life.

PPS. There's an exciting announcement coming soon.
Put a note in your diary for Thursday 12 September.
Until then, here's a clue; it rhymes with look, nook, and cook. 🤔

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Enabling senior design professionals to be more influential within their organisations. ✨ Author of this human and design character, published by BIS Publishers.📚

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