🔨 The hard truth about soft skills 🧁


"These skills are not the icing on the cake. They are the cake."

We call them soft skills, but they’re anything but soft. These are the human skills; the ones that help us listen deeply, navigate tension, build trust, and get things done with style and grace.

In this week’s article, we explore why it’s time to stop treating these skills as optional.

In a world of AI, rapid change, and rising complexity, human skills are what truly set us apart. Empathy, communication, adaptability; these aren’t just nice-to-haves. They’re essential.

So maybe it’s time we stop calling them soft...


Latest article

✍️ The hard truth about soft skills


Latest Podcast

🎙️ Episode 7 of The Smoosh Podcast
Title: The heart is more than a pump


What's happening with Melis

Reading:
A passage from the Tao Te Ching every morning upon waking. It's the illustrated version and translation by Stephen Mitchell.
It gives me something to contemplate before I start a new day, something profound and very grounding.

Listening to:
An audio book called Onyx Storm by Rebecca Yarros. Dragons and magic. A nice escape from the heavier parts of life.

Doing:
Managing all the transitions in my life, so many this year. The most recent one is becoming an empty nester. Big. HUGE.

Pondering:
How we have been trained to think linearly about the way things unfold in our lives. Some weird notion that it all happens in some fixed order and understandable sequence.

It's kind of a spiral really, sometimes you think you're on the downward swing, but really you're not in the same spot you were before. There's always something new to learn, no matter what the lesson, if you're open to it.


What's happening with Ben

Reading:
The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larsson. This one will take a while. Loving it though.

Listening to:
A Different Kind of Power (a memoir by Jacinda Ardern). Not long to go with this one. It's soooo gooooood! Highly recommend. I listen to it while driving to and from work. I'm welling up a lot. The power of kindness. Embodied. Wow.

Doing:
Juggling a busy, busy schedule. Tired eyes. Full heart. One day at a time.

Pondering:
Why we need permission to be our true, amazing selves. I meet dozens of people every week in workshops I facilitate. A consistent pattern I see is a holding back. A contraction. An old conditioning to keep playing small. Not on my watch. ;-)


We hope you know that you are essential to this life, this planet, this time. And...

You've got this.

Love,

If you like this, please share it.

If you believe in our work and think we can support people in your network, please forward this newsletter on.

PO Box 455
Ashburton, 3147
Unsubscribe · Preferences

This Human by Melis Senova

Enabling senior design professionals to be more influential within their organisations. ✨ Author of this human and design character, published by BIS Publishers.📚

Read more from This Human by Melis Senova

"The thing people are protecting is the very thing that most needs to be seen, met, and cared for." We often interpret guardedness as disinterest or ego. But beneath the surface, it’s usually something else: fear. A quiet, embodied strategy that says “don’t let too much in.” In this week’s article, we explore what happens when we start to see guardedness not as a fixed part of our character, but as a creative adjustment, a once-useful protection that may now be keeping connection at bay. And...

"A conscious leader is not one who knows more. It’s one who feels more." In this week’s article, Leadership in the Age of AI, we’re reminded that true leadership doesn’t begin with logic, it begins with feeling. Inspired by Mark Solms’ The Hidden Spring, the article invites us to return to our bodies, where consciousness lives in emotion, not just analysis. As AI grows ever faster and seemingly wiser, it’s tempting to equate intelligence with insight. But Solms shows us that wisdom isn’t...

"There’s no checklist for respect. But we know what it feels like. And we know when it’s gone." When leaders talk about what they expect from their team, “respect” is almost always at the top of the list. But what does it actually mean? And where does it really come from? In this week’s article, we explore the idea that respect isn’t something you can demand, and it’s not always something you can earn. It’s something that emerges. Like trust. Like culture. Like all the things that live in the...