How to be hard at rest.

Sounds odd doesn't it?

My relationship with rest is unhealthy. I find it hard to rest well. Usually there are feelings of guilt, of wasting time, or missing opportunity, or letting someone down, of being unproductive.

I try to turn up in all aspects of my life in high definition. But without downtime, without a deliberate practice around self-care, the cycle is one of diminishing returns.

So here's what I'm at work on:

I am changing my relationship with time.

I realise my relationship with time is the wrong way around. Tasks are in control of my schedule, rather than my wellbeing. Other's needs of time with me take priority, rather than my own needs of time with me.

So this is what I've done: No Meeting Fridays.

Friday's are blocked out in my calendar and I am not available for coaching, clinic, clients, courses or community. Generally not available for any 'c' related activity. No chips, no chunky monkey, no chocolate... well, maybe chocolate.

It's one tiny (big) thing, but it is making a huge difference.

Send me an email about what tiny (big) thing you're going to change to give yourself some productive rest.

I'd love to hear from you.

You've got this.

Love,

PS. Next week we'll hear from Ben about his approach to rest. 🧘🏻‍♂️

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