"When we honour an ending, the connection deepens, even as it dissolves." Endings are everywhere right now. This past fortnight, I (Ben) have moved through many; the completion of my master’s degree, the close of a group process I co-facilitated, the final moments of a retreat, and the end of the calendar year itself. Each one held an invitation: Be here for this. In this week’s article, I reflect on the power of endings and what happens when we actually give them our presence. Because when...

"What am I wanting from this relationship that I’m not getting...and is this the place to be getting it?" Sometimes, the tension in a work relationship isn’t about the work at all. It’s about the roles we’re unconsciously playing. In this week’s article, Ben reflects on a powerful framework he encountered in a workshop with Dirk Appel (Essence in Process). It explores how we sometimes bring the dynamics of other relationships...parent/child, friendship, even romantic partnership...into...

"Repair doesn’t require grand gestures. It just requires someone to go first." Ruptures in relationships are inevitable. But repair? That’s a choice. In this week’s article, Ben reflects on a recent moment where he initiated repair with someone he’d felt hurt by. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it. We walked, we talked, we owned our parts. And by the end, something had lifted: the tension, the story, the distance. Repair isn’t about blame or being right. It’s about willingness. The...