"Return to what's real, not what's rehearsed."

We are not just walking stories — we are walking scripts, shaped by early patterns and often running on autopilot. But what if we could pause the performance long enough to notice it?

In this newsletter, we explore how presence interrupts the plot. In Stillness in Motion, Melis reveals how embodied leadership begins with the radical act of being fully here — not posturing, not predicting, just present

In What’s Your Life Script?, Ben trace's the quiet scripts that drive our behaviour beneath the surface, based on the work of psychiatrist Eric Berne.

Both pieces remind us that to lead well, we need to inhabit ourselves. Not just know the story, but step out of it when needed. That takes stillness. That takes courage. That takes you.

Latest articles

✍️ Stillness in Motion

✍️ What's your life script?

Latest Podcast

🎙️ Episode 2 of The Smoosh Podcast
Title: What's your life script?

What's happening with Melis

Reading:
Letting Go by David R. Hawkins (the title says it all).

Listening:
All Parts Welcome - a conversation with Richard Schwartz and Elizabeth Gilbert about creativity and Internal Family Systems

Doing:
Making 1001 crochet squares (as you do). She is up to 231...

Pondering:

What 'letting go' actually means for the parent of a young adult.

What's happening with Ben

Reading:
Letting Go by David R. Hawkins (we're reading at least one book simultaneously, so we can riff about it in real time).

Listening:
A Court of Thorns and Roses (I don't read enough fiction, so...)

Doing:
A new breathing technique called Buteyko. It's very gentle, slow breathing that helps regulate the nervous system.
So far, so good!

Pondering:
The Law of Three - the belief that there are three main forces in life: affirming, denying, reconciling. Or active, passive, neutralizing. It's a great approach to use in therapy.

Take a gentle breath and remember...

You've got this.

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