"Repair doesn’t require grand gestures. It just requires someone to go first."

Ruptures in relationships are inevitable. But repair? That’s a choice.

In this week’s article, Ben reflects on a recent moment where he initiated repair with someone he’d felt hurt by. It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it. We walked, we talked, we owned our parts. And by the end, something had lifted: the tension, the story, the distance.

Repair isn’t about blame or being right. It’s about willingness.

The willingness to revisit what’s uncomfortable.

The willingness to really listen.

The willingness to reconnect.

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🎙️ Episode 14 of The Smoosh Podcast
Title: Creativity when AI pulls up a pew

What's happening with Melis

Reading/Listening to:
EcoPscyhology - Restoring the Earth, Healing the mind by Allan D Kanner because it seems like a good idea to me AND it's part of my training. Basically the health of our planet, our home, is embedded and connected to our own health as individuals and as a group of beings bustling around the place. It's inescapable yet we ignore it all the time.

Watching:
YouTube videos on how to grow medicinal herbs. I live on a farm but have lived in the city for my entire life, so this is new and it's a fun learning curve. Also... there are three kinds of native myrtles! Lemon (famous already), cinnamon and aniseed! Who knew?!

Doing:
I'm training to walk the Routeburn Track with my besty next year in NZ. We've signed up for 50km challenge in November, so I'm walking a lot, all over the place.

Pondering:
The gap between technology adoption and human adaptation. There's a pace differential here, a huge one, and what role do we play as thinker, creators and doers to respond to this. Faster or slower? I think slower, but does that fit the context?

What's happening with Ben

Reading:
Questionnaires for Path of Love participants (see below). The intensity of the human condition is amplified in the pages I'm reading. It breaks my heart AND cracks it wide open.

Listening to:
Birdsong in the Hunter Valley.

Doing:
Facilitating at Path of Love in the Hunter Valley, NSW. It's time to walk with, and guide these courageous participants on a journey back to themselves.

Pondering:
The mystery of life and being human. Pretty consistent theme here. ;-)

Which relationships in your life could use a little repairing?

You've got this.

Love,